Season 2 Episode 13

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Season 2 Episode 13

Season 2 Episode 13 | Shy personThis week we have several topics to tackle. The biggest however is what constitutes normal in the kink scene. We reference a post on Fetlife, however, for privacy, we won’t be linking directly to it (plus it’s been taken down).

 

  • My Boyfriend is into lactation, he wants to get me pregnant so that he can indulge in that fantasy. I think it’s sick and wrong. Can’t I find someone who is just “normal”?
  • When new people enter the community, one of the first things they need is guidance and safe friends. Is it possible to relate with people who are just coming into the community when you’ve been in it for a while?
  • My girlfriend really wants to put me into chastity. I’m not really sure about it though. Are there any risks associated with long term chastity?

 

Announcement, Rope_Squirrel, in his alter ego, will be presenting at Sin in the City 2016. However, that means there may be some opportunity for interviews in Vegas.

Season 2 Episode 12

Posted by Rope Squirrel | Posted in Opinion, Podcast, Rope Squirrel | Posted on 02-10-2015

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Season 2 Episode 12

Season 2 Episode 12 | Polyamory

Topic for this week:

Toxic people in the community. We talk about how to make sure that your kink life isn’t filled with drama.

Questions this week:

  1. I am a single guy, I feel really odd when I attend play parties. Partly because I don’t have anyone to play with but mostly because I feel everyone is judging me to be the creepy guy. Is it OK that I attend parties?
  2. I want to meet more kinky girls, where are some of the best places to look? Should I use non-kink sites like Match.com or Tinder?
  3. Are poly relationships worth the hassle? I’ve been conversing with this guy who is poly and wants to bring me into the relationship. Am I opening a huge can of worms here?

Until November 7th I’ll be in the Ontario province of Canada. If you are interested in being on the show and are in that area, feel free to hit me up. We’d love to have locals on the show.

Season 2 Episode 12 | Canada Leaf

Season 2 Episode 11

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Season 2 Episode 11

PonyHugNo | Season 2 Episode 11

 

This week we discuss the NCSF Consent violation survey.

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Then we answer your questions:

  1. My girlfriend wants to have open relationship, I’m not sure I’m OK with that, but I honestly don’t know how to feel. Where can I go to get more information?
  2. So I am in love with this girl, but she seems uninterested in me when this other person is around. When He isn’t around, she is all over me. Am I in trouble?

 

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Maple Leaf | Season 2 Episode 11Also, for the next 45 days (Sept 24th – Nov 7th), Rope_Squirrel will be in Canada. Fear not though, we are making him bring his recording equipment so the show will go on.

 

Season 2 Episode 10

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Season 2 Episode 10 | Romeo and Juliet, the tale of two clubs

This episode features an interview with a Detroit munch organizer and community leader, I talk about bridging gaps between groups and we answer questions about collars, strange fetishes and negotiations.

Season 2 Episode 9

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Season 2 Episode 9

Season 2 Episode 9 | Volunteers

This week, I give a shout out to volunteers and event organizers everywhere

 

I also take your calls like these:

  • I just got involved with a new partner, but he isn’t into kink. I’ve been doing kink forever and would like to share in my experiences with him, if not have him embrace them. How do I broach this topic and let him know my desires,.
  • I’ve never played before I’m about to do so for the first time, what should my first type of play be
  • Sex really doesn’t appeal to me. I’ve just never enjoyed it. BDSM though I do enjoy. That is what really excites me. My current partner wants to have sex while we play. I am not really into that idea though. How do I tell her I am, not interested.

In the next weeks, I’ll be doing 1-2 out-of-state interviews and then a local one. Look forward to it.

Season 2 Episode 8

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Season 2 Episode 8

Season 2 Episode 8 | Race Bannon at Southwest Leather Conference Keynote

 

This week, I want to start off by sharing with you a keynote I got to hear in person at Southwest Leather Conference 2014. It was given by Race Bannon and quite honestly, it was life changing to me. In case it ever goes offline, I’ll make a page for it:

Next, I interview Paul Rulof about his book Power Over Pleasure: A Training Program for Female Orgasms By Vocal Command. It was interesting to talk about this topic.

Season 2 Episode 8 | Paul Rulof

Finally, we take your calls and answer them (Paul and I both answered them)

  • I like to think I am good in bed, but sometimes my Girlfriend just cannot achieve Orgasm. I think I’m doing all the right things, I’m stimulating both the clit and the internal bits, but I just can’t seem to do it? What can I do to help this process along? – Spelunker
  • When my girlfriend orgasms, it tends to be several in a row and then it stops. Is there any way to keep her riding the wave? – MultiO
  • How can I tell if my Girlfriend is faking her orgasm? I mean, I don’t think she is, but how can I be sure? – RealorFake

 

As a side note, I am getting more interviews together in the upcoming weeks. Expect those!

Season 2 Episode 7

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Season 2 Episode 7 | Chantelle Tibbaks This week I have a special surprise for you. Not just one, but two guests.   I have Dr Chauntelle Tibbals, author of a new book: Exposure: A Sociologist Explores Sex, Society, and Adult Entertainment. She and I answer your questions. Her and I also discuss her book and some of the insights behind it. I rather enjoyed this! Viewer Questions:

  • (Due to an issue with the recording, question 1 had to be removed. Having changed microphones, I couldn’t cover this up. I know it sounds awful)
  • Music is always an issue for me. Be that in the bedroom or at the club, it is tough for me to find the right kind of music. Sometimes the local club plays something that I enjoy to play to, other times, it’s just awful. I bring my own music sometimes, but I’d like to not drown out the world simply to enjoy myself. Should I talk to the club about it? Where can I find good universally accepted dungeon music? –Castrado in Florida
  • How do I plan a play scene? My Girlfriend always wants all kinds of theatrics when we play. Role playing and such. However, I’m not very good at it. I ruin the scenes consistently and it drags us both out of it? How can I become more confident in roleplaying? Are there any kind of roleplaying in the bedroom classes I can take? – BadActor in California

Season 2 Episode 7 | Instant Hell Next, a man who makes a product that honestly scares me, and I didn’t think much could scare me anymore in the BDSM scene. The Professor from Instant hell comes on to talk about his product. If you’d like a free sample of it, he is willing to send one. For listeners of this podcast just send an email to [email protected] with where you’d like it shipped. Be sure to mention Kink in the Chain. I’m curious to try it myself. FYI, this was not a paid endorsement or anything. I genuinely am curious about the product. I’ll be interviewing a few more product makers in the episodes to come.   This week in news, I have a favor to ask of you dear listener. Would you be willing to sign a change.org petition? Season 2 Episode 7 | Zachary Anderson

I discuss this in “What’s kinky this week”. In short though, he was deceived and had sex with an underage girl and now he’s a sex offender and serving jail time. I really hope we can all come together and salvage his life. Kids make mistakes, but as of now this 19 year old’s life is over.

Link to Zachary Anderson’s Change.org Petition

Sources:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3128644/How-19-year-old-ended-bars-sex-offender-list-having-consensual-sex-girl-met-hook-app.html http://www.southbendtribune.com/news/local/was-justice-served-after-teen-s-encounter-with-girl/article_bede1df7-505d-5d39-b9d8-256719f553d9.htm

Season 2 Episode 6

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Season 2 Episode 6

Season 2 Episode 6 | Gay Marriage

 

You have no idea how happy this made me. I know that we put out a post about this on the weekend of, but this is the first show I’ve had to talk about it. These are exciting times we are living in and I am so happy that everyone now has the right to marry and for that to be recognized in any state of the United States. This week we talk about this development.

Season 2 Episode 5

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Season 2 Episode 5

This week, we interviewed Casey Calvert and also answered your viewer questions. I also undertook the question of if you can lose your kids if you practice BDSM

 

Season 2 Episode 5 | Adult and Child hand

Season 2 Episode 4

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Season 2 Episode 4Season 2 Episode 4 | Fifty Shades of Grey

Season 2 Episode 4 | Fifty Shades of Grey as told by Christian

This week we discuss the announcement of El James’ new book which goes into Christian’s side of the story instead of Anastasia’s.

 

News Sources:

http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/jun/02/fifty-shades-no-need-reboot-christian-grey-perspective

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06/05/bdsm-better-mental-health-study_n_3390676.html

 

Questions for this week:

  • I’m about to head to my first BDSM convention, is there anything I should know?
  • Are there any considerations I need to know for electrical play?
  • How can I become more active in the community?

 

Extra:

I talk about an upcoming convention in my area. Oh boy am I excited.

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