Exodus Intl has an exodus of their own!

Posted by Rope Squirrel | Posted in News, Opinion | Posted on 21-06-2013

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Be it stimulation not related specifically to sex or the delicious states that inflicting and receiving pain from another can bring, Kink goes back much further than the 20th century. What most of us practice today though, can be attributed to the gay community. So, while this article in and of itself is not kink related, it does deserve to be mentioned if not celebrated by those of us who are kinky because, it is one less resource of oppression of those who differ from the ‘norm’.

Exodus International – a well known “church” of sorts which vowed to ‘pray the gay away’ *ugh, it makes me shudder & feel dirty to even write that phrase* – has decided to close its doors & quit preaching this message of bigotry & self-defined ‘better way’ or ‘right way’ to live.

And to that, I say WOOHOOO!!

Exodus International has spent over 30 years preaching this message: That being gay is wrong, you will burn in hell for it and – the most ludicrous of all its statements – that if you pray and just try, you can be a “normal” heterosexual male “Like God wants”. Essentially trying to turn you from gay into ex-gay. Now, think about that a moment. I want you to think about your sexuality for a second – whatever it may be – and now I want you to think of just how easy it would be for you to deny that and be some other sexuality that is NOT how you feel & may actually even repulse you! Yeah, that.

Waaay back in 2011 in March or so, I caught the show “Our America with Lisa Ling” on OWN and the episode was called “Pray the Gay Away?” . I’d heard of Exodus International before and knew of their message, I was intrigued and wanted to know just what the now leader was going to say to justify his beliefs. Emotional masochism at its best, I know. I watched and was kinda shocked by it all really. What I was NOT prepared for though was the next year, Alan Chambers stating that they will no longer use “reparative therapy” to remedy same-sex attraction…AND THAT IT WAS BROUGHT ON BECAUSE OF HIS INVOLVEMENT IN THE SHOW!!! And that another year later, he is shutting it down.

I have to admit, watching the process – all the shows & his reactions – play out over these past few years has been refreshing. I believe people can change or at least learn to shut their mouths or learn that what they did in their past was wrong. It doesnt take away from the harm you caused but, it is good to see and watch as one processes that journey from “Im a fucked up person but I dont realize it” to, “Holy shit, I am/have fucked up beliefs” to, “How can I change/fix this?” to, “I am actively changing”. Again, it doesnt absolve him – or others involved – of their behaviors and the harm they caused so many – and the suicides committed by LGBTQ’s all because they fell for the message and felt there was nothing else they could do – but, it’s a start.

Exodus International closing down is one LESS resource out there that shames people of their true nature.


For that alone, I am happy.

BDSM National Events!

Posted by Rope Squirrel | Posted in News | Posted on 30-05-2013

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Whether you want to get out of your town or see what’s in your backyard, these events are a wonderful way to gather with people like yourself across the nation – make new friends, see old ones that have moved or even just to travel and get some more education, these are just a few of the events that go on across the USA annually.


SWLC – Southwest Leather Conference – Phoenix, Az
Typically held in late January, this event is known as the spiritual BDSM conference but, dont be dettered, the “woo” is more of a throbbing undercurrent of the event in which the classes and events range from demo & play to the mental and how things feel to do. This event also hosts the SW M/s & SW bootblack contests which are a blast! Whether you wanna bang a drum or gather at the Danse of Souls hook pull, this event is one to take you just a bit further beyond your current expectations and understanding of what it is that we do.

MAL – MidAtlantic Leather Weekend – Washington, DC
Held in mid-January, the Mid-Atlantic Leather Weekend is an event and contest held on the east-coast that has a wonderful history. The Centaurs MC (motorcycle club) puts this event on every year and it hosts the Mr. Mid-Atlantic Leather contest as well.



BOLD – Los Angeles, Ca
In late February one of the most recent events on the circuit takes over LA, BOLD is an event for male dominated heterosexual leather identified individuals. The only known male dominant-female submissive conference in the world, for those who identify as such, this may be just the conference for you!

SITC – Sin In The City – Las Vegas, Nv
SITC – a relatively newcomer to the annual events list – is scheduled to be held in 2014 on Feb 28th thru March 2nd in the sinfully delicious Las Vegas. Its inaugural year in 2013 turned out to be a hit and this kinky little host is bummed she wasnt able to make it! Hosting the Southwest Olympus Leather contest, this event also includes stimulating classes, play parties & of course vending! If you’ve never been to Vegas before, now you have a reason to go!



SPLF – South Plains Leatherfest & International Master/slave Weekend – Dallas, Tx
SPLF in Dallas is held in early March and if you are queer or a history buff or just love Leathersex, this is one you have to see to believe. Its ongoing theme is “We will not forget” which is a reflection on the history of BDSM and how far weve come & honoring those who paved the way. Included in the weekend, the Int’l M/s Contest is well known for their heartwarming opening ceremony & the event itself isnt anything to scoff at either! With over 20 classes, a coffee ‘house’, the hot bootblacking stands and the various cruising parties, its worth considering!

KinkFest – Portland, Or
Held in late March every year, Kinkfest has the 2nd largest annual BDSM convention play space in the nation with over 30,000 sqft of room to squeal and screech to your heart’s delight! With three dungeon parties, world class presenters, a huge vendor hall and back massages – even this is one I want to check out sometime!

Leather & Leis – Private Location, Hawaii
Duh, Hawaii…need I say more? Well, I guess I should. Leather & Leis has its giant dungeon open 24hrs. Oh, you need more of a reason to go? Clothing optional pool, classes & amazing rooms at a retreat? Not a cheap event but, what other reason do you need to go to Hawaii?!



Frolicon – Atlanta, GA
Ever wanted a photo of your hot scene? Frolicon is one of the extremely few events where photographs – by the staff photographers – are taken. If youre squicked out, they explain the photos belong to the convention & will only be used for promotional materials for the convention. If that still doesnt help, the Frolicon Photo staff suggest you disguise yourself in some way as it is part of the event. Not bad for those who like good photos for free! With parties, games, classes, apparently Rocky Horror (I gotta see this), ‘geeks & freaks’ this could just be the event for you!

IMSL – International Ms Leather & International Ms Bootblack – San Francisco, Ca
A weekend, in San Fran, surrounded by hot Leather women from all across the world? Why wouldnt you want to go?! Held in mid-April, IMsL/IMsBB is a contest & educational event with hot sexy Leather women – and men! – hosted in a wonderful, recently renovated, hotel and you can see the bay from the uppermost floors! Lots of the usual, classes, play parties, and blah blah but…WOMEN!!! DONT FORGET THE HOT WOMEN!!!!



BL – Beyond Leather – Ft. Lauderdale, Fl
Typically held in the 1st week of May, this event is held in the sunny beautiful Ft. Lauderdale, Fl in a 4-star hotel and hosts the Intl. Power Exchange Contest as well as the International Pony Play Championships. This event’s classes and panels cover the gambit of topics and types from spiritual to demos to rope to edge play!

DomCon/International Olympus Leather – Los Angeles, Ca
About early to mid May is DomCon – “The World’s Premier Professional and Lifestyle Domination Convention” – Takes over LA to fill their hotel with professional Dom/me’s from across the nation as well as to bring together the BDSM and Leahter community for classes, panels and events! The International Olympus Leather contest is held during this conference as well and with male & female Olympus Leather winners from all over the US, this is one contest youre gonna want to see!

Shibaricon – Chicago, Il
Rope, rope, rope, rope, rope…ROPE! Get the idea yet? Shibaricon is the event for rope enthusiasts! Classes about ties & suspensions and kinds of rope & different knots. With four days of classes, a daytime play space to practice your rope skills, hands-on tutoring from the presenters & a ton of equipment to play on, if you like rope, you’ll want to check this out in late May!

IML – International Mr Leather & International Mr Bootblack – Chicago, Il
This Memorial Day Weekend event has just finished celebrating 35 years! Initially a bar contest, IML long ago grew out of the bar and has moved on to much larger venues! This contest & hot event is legendary and no matter where you fall in the gender spectrum, you are welcome to attend and root for your favorite contestants from across the nation & world!



TITM – Thunder in the Mountians – Denver, Co
Thunder – held in mid July – with 40,000sqft of play space has THE largest play area for an annual BDSM convention in the USA. That’s not the only reason to check it out though! With over 15 presenters, 30+ classes ranging from demo’s to insight to self-advancement, the bootblack stands as well as the game night, RMLSb/CBB (Rocky Mtn Leather Sir, Leather boy & Community Bootblack) contest and the off site after party on Sunday?! – this is one event you MUST attend at LEAST once.



RMOL – Rocky Mtn. Olympus Leather –  Location of hotel given upon registration, SLC, Ut
Another relatively new event, RMOL is a small event with a HUGE heart & it feels like coming home. With 15+ classes, the awesome Contest of hot Leathermen & women, and fun play parties, this event is one you will enjoy! The local community is so warm and welcoming, you wont want to leave, be sure to check this one out sometime as well if you can!


BV – Beyond Vanilla – (currently) Dallas, Tx
In late September its time for Beyond Vanilla! With the help of NLA Dallas, these classes and keynotes are definitely ones you will want to try and checkout someday!

Folsom Street Fair – San Francisco, Ca
Let your kink flags fly! Think of this event as PRIDE – cept you can be naked here! – for all kinky people of every shape, size, color, gender, orientation & lifestyle. This event is one huge party with vendors galore, dance stages, public play areas, a live stage & an erotic artists area! Held in late September every year, Folsom gives you another excuse to go back to San Fran baby!


Victoria’s Secret’s Blunder Bust

Posted by Rope Squirrel | Posted in News | Posted on 22-05-2013

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Victoria’s Secret bras…they’ll push & pull and lift boobs in ways that guys have complained for years are misleading!
Well, now it seems that Victoria’s Secret wont be supporting the boobs that need the most support – those that have undergone mastectomy. In January, Allana Maiden started a petition on Change.org asking Victoria’s Secret to make a mastectomy bra for cancer survivors. Allana’s mother – a breast cancer survivor for over 2 decades – has to drive almost a half an hour away just to get a specialty made bra. Miss Maiden thought that breast cancer survivors – young and old – should have easier access to beautiful and great fitting bras. VS was practically handed a PR wet dream, unfortunately they’ve stated they will not be making mastectomy bras anytime soon.

Don’t give em too much hell though, at least they tried! As noted in a change.org public statement from VS

Through our research, we have learned that fitting and selling mastectomy bras in the right way…a way that is beneficial to women is complicated and truly a science. As a result, we believe that the best way for us to make an impact for our customers is to continue funding cancer research.

Check out more on this story at CBSNews.com


So… what did we get stuck in our bodies this year?

Posted by Rope Squirrel | Posted in News, Rope Squirrel | Posted on 05-01-2013

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Every year, the sun sentinel creates a database of  emergency room visits around the country. Here are some of the best ones I could find in the list: (going south on the body)

  • Ear:
    • ERASER
    • CHALK
    • A TOY
    • COMB
  • Nose:
    • SPONGE
    • 6″ NAIL
    • A BEAN
  • Throat:
    • DOG TOY
    • DRY ICE
    • BEE

Kink in the going live in 2013!

Posted by Rope Squirrel | Posted in News, Rope Squirrel | Posted on 31-12-2012

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Are you ready for the kink? Join your hosts Rope_Squirrel and Sage in 2013 to answer all of your kinky questions and keep you up to date on the latest news in kink. Stay tuned!


Major Universities formally recognizing kink

Posted by Rope Squirrel | Posted in News, Rope Squirrel | Posted on 07-12-2012


The day is finally here! While it wasn’t an issue when I attended college, in this modern-day, sex positive movement, kinksters are coming out of the proverbial closet and want to meet other like-minded people. On campuses across the country, people of similar interests are able to form clubs which receive a small amount of funding and usually have some kind of dedicated space. I, for example, was in the Anime club and we met once a week, late at night in a room with a projector and watched anime. So why not kink?

Well, one such group has just been made official at Harvard. This club is doing things right. They meet during lunch and dinner hours in the style of a munch. That way people who do not wish to be exposed to kink and BDSM are not forced to experience it.

So there you have it, the Harvard munch, something I never expected to see, but am quite happy to see.

What do you think about this? Should kink have a place at colleges and universities or should it stay at coffee shops, restaurants and BDSM clubs?




Denver council rejects swingers club settlement

Posted by Rope Squirrel | Posted in News, Rope Squirrel | Posted on 22-11-2012


Original article: http://www.9news.com/news/local/article/285814/222/Denver-council-rejects-swingers-club-settlement

Other sources: http://www.denverpost.com/politics/ci_21413246/denver-council-votes-not-settle-clubs-excessive-force


While this occurred in 2010, it certainly is troubling. We’ve run into this with city governments before. I understand that they might feel that what we do is wrong. However, that is no excuse for dismissing lawsuits. The fact that the officers raided the club without a warrant and took property without said warrant certainly say a lot. Again, these are all allegations, but it is a worrisome allegation if true. And the fact that it was dismissed is also worrisome. What do you think about it?

New Yorkers search more for BDSM porn compared to rest of the world

Posted by Rope Squirrel | Posted in News, Rope Squirrel | Posted on 16-11-2012

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From: https://ncsfreedom.org/press/blog/item/new-yorkers-search-more-for-bdsm-porn-compared-to-rest-of-the-world.html

New Yorkers are getting their freak on — behind closed doors.

While BDSM enthusiasts tell Metro they have definitely seen more newcomers to the underground sex scene, newly released statistics by adult entertainment site YouPorn show New Yorkers are most exploring their kinky curiosities in the privacy of their own homes.

According to the numbers, searches for BDSM-related porn on the site are up worldwide, likely due to the explosion of popularity for the erotic novel “Fifty Shades of Grey.”

But here in New York, we’re searching that kind of porn with the largest spike, at an 89.7 percent increase from April to June of 2012, compared to a worldwide increase of 67 percent, according to YouPorn.

“New Yorkers spanked the competition,” YouPorn said of the statistics.

A spokesman for the site said they were able to compile the data using analytic software that could tell which geographic area searches came from.

The news doesn’t come as a surprise to people who are embedded in New York’s kinky community.

“There has been an uptick on the scene, but you are seeing way more people doing it from home,” Bo Blaze, who has been active in New York’s BDSM scene for more than 20 years, told Metro. “I would attribute it mostly to New York being an awesome, kinky town, and people here are curious.”

New Yorkers are searching for the terms “sex slave” and “master” more than ever, with a 109.2 percent increase and 113.82 percent increase, respectively. The rest of the world is searching for that type of porn, but only at a 78.96 percent and 71.91 percent increase.

The master-slave relationship takes a front seat in the wildly popular “Fifty Shades,” which could explain the recent interest.

“No book sells 32 million copies without a cultural shift happening, and New York leads that,” Blaze said.

Guy Sanders, a spokesman for the Eulenspiegel Society — New York’s oldest BDSM group, which promotes sexual liberation for adults — agreed, adding that the city has historically served as a pioneer when it comes to sexuality.

“The gay pride movement really took force in New York,” Sanders said. “New Yorkers are progressive sexually and open sexually and have a tendency to lead the way.”

Other terms that porn viewers in New York are searching for at a higher increase compared to the rest of the world include “domination” and “sadism.”

This was interesting. Another example of how Fifty Shades is changing kink culture by making it more mainstream. While we are still more sexually repressed than the rest of the world, it is still very interesting to see kink moving forward. Whether it is good or bad, only time will tell. What do you think?

Fetish Event Canceled

Posted by Rope Squirrel | Posted in News, Rope Squirrel | Posted on 02-11-2012

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It’s news posts like this that make me sad. Fetish Event Canceled. Every group likes to get together and meet. Book clubs, gun clubs and even church groups have no issues meeting. I know from personal experience how difficult finding a venue for a public event can be. In this case, it seems the event organizers got a bit farther than I did. Most venues I speak with tell me flatly no and, because of the community backlash it would surely incur, I understand why. It is sad however that, even with the proper precautions in place, BDSM events are still controversial. I’ve gone so far as to get insurance, line up volunteers, determine how best to maintain the privacy of the guests and control access to avoid exposing people to it and even paying double the rate and they still decline.

The mother did have a good point about possible leftovers and having to explain it to the children. Admittedly, I think it would be a little weird to be playing in a place where young children were only hours before. However, with an army of staff, you could easily sweep the entire play space top to bottom. I’d also hope that the venue would do its own cleaning after the event. Our big convention every year is in a hotel and they make sure to clean very thoroughly afterward.

I do appreciate Lisa Helps, the City Councillor standing up for the right for any group to rent the space. I’d hope that, with the proper precautions, ANY group could take advantage of the community center. If a pro-nazi group wanted to hold a rally, I’d hope the community center wouldn’t cave like they did here. It’s an event like any other, so is a BDSM play party. What do you think?


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