Season 2 Episode 9

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Season 2 Episode 9

Season 2 Episode 9 | Volunteers

This week, I give a shout out to volunteers and event organizers everywhere

 

I also take your calls like these:

  • I just got involved with a new partner, but he isn’t into kink. I’ve been doing kink forever and would like to share in my experiences with him, if not have him embrace them. How do I broach this topic and let him know my desires,.
  • I’ve never played before I’m about to do so for the first time, what should my first type of play be
  • Sex really doesn’t appeal to me. I’ve just never enjoyed it. BDSM though I do enjoy. That is what really excites me. My current partner wants to have sex while we play. I am not really into that idea though. How do I tell her I am, not interested.

In the next weeks, I’ll be doing 1-2 out-of-state interviews and then a local one. Look forward to it.

Season 2 Episode 8

Posted by Rope Squirrel | Posted in Advice, Interview, Opinion, Podcast, Rope Squirrel | Posted on 06-08-2015

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Season 2 Episode 8

Season 2 Episode 8 | Race Bannon at Southwest Leather Conference Keynote

 

This week, I want to start off by sharing with you a keynote I got to hear in person at Southwest Leather Conference 2014. It was given by Race Bannon and quite honestly, it was life changing to me. In case it ever goes offline, I’ll make a page for it:

Next, I interview Paul Rulof about his book Power Over Pleasure: A Training Program for Female Orgasms By Vocal Command. It was interesting to talk about this topic.

Season 2 Episode 8 | Paul Rulof

Finally, we take your calls and answer them (Paul and I both answered them)

  • I like to think I am good in bed, but sometimes my Girlfriend just cannot achieve Orgasm. I think I’m doing all the right things, I’m stimulating both the clit and the internal bits, but I just can’t seem to do it? What can I do to help this process along? – Spelunker
  • When my girlfriend orgasms, it tends to be several in a row and then it stops. Is there any way to keep her riding the wave? – MultiO
  • How can I tell if my Girlfriend is faking her orgasm? I mean, I don’t think she is, but how can I be sure? – RealorFake

 

As a side note, I am getting more interviews together in the upcoming weeks. Expect those!

Season 2 Episode 7

Posted by Rope Squirrel | Posted in Advice, Interview, News, Opinion, Podcast, Rope Squirrel | Posted on 22-07-2015

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Season 2 Episode 7

Season 2 Episode 7 | Chantelle Tibbaks This week I have a special surprise for you. Not just one, but two guests.   I have Dr Chauntelle Tibbals, author of a new book: Exposure: A Sociologist Explores Sex, Society, and Adult Entertainment. She and I answer your questions. Her and I also discuss her book and some of the insights behind it. I rather enjoyed this! Viewer Questions:

  • (Due to an issue with the recording, question 1 had to be removed. Having changed microphones, I couldn’t cover this up. I know it sounds awful)
  • Music is always an issue for me. Be that in the bedroom or at the club, it is tough for me to find the right kind of music. Sometimes the local club plays something that I enjoy to play to, other times, it’s just awful. I bring my own music sometimes, but I’d like to not drown out the world simply to enjoy myself. Should I talk to the club about it? Where can I find good universally accepted dungeon music? –Castrado in Florida
  • How do I plan a play scene? My Girlfriend always wants all kinds of theatrics when we play. Role playing and such. However, I’m not very good at it. I ruin the scenes consistently and it drags us both out of it? How can I become more confident in roleplaying? Are there any kind of roleplaying in the bedroom classes I can take? – BadActor in California

Season 2 Episode 7 | Instant Hell Next, a man who makes a product that honestly scares me, and I didn’t think much could scare me anymore in the BDSM scene. The Professor from Instant hell comes on to talk about his product. If you’d like a free sample of it, he is willing to send one. For listeners of this podcast just send an email to [email protected] with where you’d like it shipped. Be sure to mention Kink in the Chain. I’m curious to try it myself. FYI, this was not a paid endorsement or anything. I genuinely am curious about the product. I’ll be interviewing a few more product makers in the episodes to come.   This week in news, I have a favor to ask of you dear listener. Would you be willing to sign a change.org petition? Season 2 Episode 7 | Zachary Anderson

I discuss this in “What’s kinky this week”. In short though, he was deceived and had sex with an underage girl and now he’s a sex offender and serving jail time. I really hope we can all come together and salvage his life. Kids make mistakes, but as of now this 19 year old’s life is over.

Link to Zachary Anderson’s Change.org Petition

Sources:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3128644/How-19-year-old-ended-bars-sex-offender-list-having-consensual-sex-girl-met-hook-app.html http://www.southbendtribune.com/news/local/was-justice-served-after-teen-s-encounter-with-girl/article_bede1df7-505d-5d39-b9d8-256719f553d9.htm

Season 2 Episode 6

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Season 2 Episode 6

Season 2 Episode 6 | Gay Marriage

 

You have no idea how happy this made me. I know that we put out a post about this on the weekend of, but this is the first show I’ve had to talk about it. These are exciting times we are living in and I am so happy that everyone now has the right to marry and for that to be recognized in any state of the United States. This week we talk about this development.

Season 2 Episode 5

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Season 2 Episode 5

This week, we interviewed Casey Calvert and also answered your viewer questions. I also undertook the question of if you can lose your kids if you practice BDSM

 

Season 2 Episode 5 | Adult and Child hand

Season 2 Episode 4

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Season 2 Episode 4Season 2 Episode 4 | Fifty Shades of Grey

Season 2 Episode 4 | Fifty Shades of Grey as told by Christian

This week we discuss the announcement of El James’ new book which goes into Christian’s side of the story instead of Anastasia’s.

 

News Sources:

http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/jun/02/fifty-shades-no-need-reboot-christian-grey-perspective

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06/05/bdsm-better-mental-health-study_n_3390676.html

 

Questions for this week:

  • I’m about to head to my first BDSM convention, is there anything I should know?
  • Are there any considerations I need to know for electrical play?
  • How can I become more active in the community?

 

Extra:

I talk about an upcoming convention in my area. Oh boy am I excited.

Season 2 Episode 3

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Season 2 Episode 3

Season 2 Episode 3 | Mall 1Season 2 Episode 3 | Mall 2Season 2 Episode 3 | Outside 1Season 2 Episode 3 | Outside 2

News Link: Man walks woman on dog leash through Staten Island Mall

This week we answer three questions:

  1. How to do I play in public?
  2. Is there such a thing as monogamy in BDSM?
  3. How do I know if someone shares my kinks?

As a side note, I have a special announcement that I make at the end of the episode. If you want to be bad, and who doesn’t you can skip right to it and hear it. But needless to say I am very excited about it. Look for this special thing in a future podcast.

 

Be sure to send in the questions you’d like answered. [email protected] or via phone at 804-404-KINK. We love to hear feedback as well so let us know what you think. I am going to be having a guest soon. This should prove…. interesting 🙂

 

Season 2 Episode 1

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Finally, that moment you’ve all been waiting for! EPISODE 2!

Season 2 Episode 1 | Cheering Minions

Well… since the format and hosts have changed so drastically, I figured we should start a new season. But needless to say, we are back baby!

 

Here are the links to articles for this week’s episode:

The BDSM version of Facebook is under attack for ignoring women’s safety concerns

Kinky Competitor To AirBNB Lets Travelers Rent Out Dungeons

New player safety tips

Posted by Rope Squirrel | Posted in Advice, Rope Squirrel | Posted on 07-07-2013

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So you are brand new to the scene (and good for you!) or you are just curious. Like any other thing in life, we have our dangers. One thing unique about our lifestyle though is the bondage element. So extra care must be taken. This is not a post to scare you off but rather one to educate on things you can do to be more safe.

  1. Treat a first meeting of a Dom/sub with the same care you’d use on a first date. Meet in a public place. Don’t commit to play (vanilla world sex) on the first “date”. Get to know the person. If they insist on playing quickly and you are not comfortable with it, say so. If you two MUST play, do so at a club where there are other people around
  2. Have a safety call. For the first few dates, let someone know where you will be and a check in time. say you are meeting at 6pm at… I dunno.. Olive Garden. Your friend could call at 10:30pm to check in on you. Alternatively, you could have the friend call at 8:30pm with an “emergency” if you need an escape plan. Whatever you decide, make sure the friend knows where you will be. If you head over to his/her place, since you both came in separate cars, text your friend with the information of where that is. Keep your safety person in the loop. At least for the first few dates.
  3. Before playing talk about what CAN be done, not just what CAN’T be done. Kinksters are a creative bunch. For example, if you tell me that I can’t hit you with a whip or flogger, I will find something else to hit with that wasn’t covered (perhaps a bushel of roses). I probably won’t be ever invited to play again with you, but we love to find loopholes. Make sure that as a sub (or a dom) that you sit down and lay out what isn’t allowed to occur, and (at least at first) what is permitted. Too many skip this second step and while it might not lead to abuse, it can lead to hurt feelings that could have been avoided. Get to know each other a bit before getting “creative” with the negotiation.

In the end, it’s all about communication and safety. These two things are your friends when meeting new people.

What to do when the cops come a knocking

Posted by Rope Squirrel | Posted in Advice | Posted on 24-12-2012

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It happens to most of us. At least until kink becomes more mainstream, sounds of screaming in ecstasy from whips sound just like the sounds of someone being murdered and the neighbors have called the police. They show up at the door. What do you do?

First and foremost, it varies from city to city, state to state. However these are general guidelines to follow but this is HARDLY a legal document.

  • Answer the door – While some might think that since no crime was committed  the cops won’t break down the door, not getting a response can give the officers probable cause to break down the door. After all, your neighbors reported someone screaming in pain. Any reasonable person might assume that something is wrong. Acknowledge the police at the door and put on clothes if applicable. Nothing fancy, just don’t be naked.
  • Stop the scene – Untie the bottom (if applicable). Make sure the person that was doing the screaming is present when speaking with the officers. Again, you don’t want to give them reason to search the house
  • Be honest – Be up front about what you were doing. Officers are trained to detect deceit so lying will only cause them to be suspicious of you.
  • Do NOT allow them entrance to your home, but do not impede them – Impeding an officer is a surefire way to get arrested. In most places, if an officer has been given permission to enter, anything he/she finds they can cite you with. However, if you do not give them permission, they cannot cite you for anything. Say something like “I do not give you permission to enter my home, but I will not impede you in your duties” if they persist.

While these are just guidelines, keep these in mind for dealing with law enforcement. Kink activities are legal in most places so there is not much an officer can do. However, familiarize yourself with local laws regarding kink. A good place to start is the NCSF’s page on assault laws. It certainly doesn’t hurt to have the law on your side.

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