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Season 3 Episode 4

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This week, we speak with Master Jon and Slave amendah regarding leather titleholding and we briefly touch on how to approach someone for play.IL Master slave 2014 pic

Questions for this week:

1) Kelly in Montana – My partner lately has lost all desire for kink. When I first met him, he seemed full of life and energy. We went to the parties and generally had a good time. I’m debating taking over one of the parties and with it comes the drama of being a community leader. While I am not handling it perfectly, I am handling it. However, he isn’t handling it at all despite the fact that he isn’t directly involved. In fact, he doesn’t want to go out to kink events anymore because of it. Should I stop pursuing leading the community to make things easier on him or should I find someone else? I want to be active in the community even if it is a member.

2) Joanne in Florida – My sir just collared me and we signed a slave contract. Don’t get me wrong, I am very excited about being a collared slave and I want to serve him in any way possible. In our slave contract however, there is a clause that I though sounded good at the time: “I must answer the phone when he calls”. Makes sense. However, when I am not his slave, I work in a call center where they prohibit personal calls. Once or twice he’s called during work and I have to hide phone and sneak off to a break room. I’m worried I’m going to get caught. How do I approach Master with this problem? I don’t want to break our contract so soon.

3) Ben in Texas – My Wife/Slave spent all of our savings! We were saving for a house together and she went to a casino with her friends. I have no problem with gambling whatsoever. This was a girls night out and I wasn’t supposed to attend. I did set a limit for her of $500 which she had saved so everything was fine. However, she had a few drinks and withdrew a significant portion of the savings we were saving to purchase a home. My issue isn’t the fact that she went over the limit. Behavior I can correct, and I know I can’t get the money back, but what do I do? I don’t want to send the message that I don’t trust her by taking away her debit card. It was a stupid drunken mistake. But I have two issues. How to prevent this from happening in the future and how to express my disappointment and get over it. It set us back significantly as far as owning a home. It feels like a betrayal.

 

 

Show notes: Sorry about the lack of episodes as of late. I’ve been teaching a lot, however, I never forgot about the show. More episodes to come!

Season 3 Episode 3

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Season 3 Episode 3
Season 3 Episode 3 | Tony and Christie

This week, we talk about expectations, and the scene in general. Expectations are a difficult thing to both have and for venue and other organizers to meet if they are set too high. Not saying you shouldn’t have high expectations, but if it’s your first time, at least be reasonable.

We also have a wonderful interview with two presenters that I met in Las Vegas, Tony the Grey and Christie. They are presenters from the Southeast US and I will be seeing them again at an upcoming conference. Looking forward to it!

Their website: http://www.tonythegrey.com/

 

Aggregate questions for this week:

1. How do I get over a BDSM relationship in which we continue to see each other at various venues?
2. How do I establish credibility in the scene?
3. How do I mitigate top drop?

Season 3 Episode 2

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Season 3 Episode 2

Season 3 Episode 2 | Gender Negotiations

This time, we discuss negotiations, we speak with Lee Harrington about his latest book, and we answer your questions

Season 3 Episode 2 | Lee Harrington

Find Lee’s book here:


Your questions:

  • My significant other and I have been experimenting with light BDSM (Dom/sub, and light bondage), and have really been enjoying it. What are some nicknames/titles we can use that won’t come across as inappropriate or alarming outside of the bedroom. We would like to maintain our Dom/sub roles in our daily lives, without making others uncomfortable. We have even found a collar for me that looks like a necklace. Thank you.”. Bridget in North Carolina
  • I’m about to attend a BDSM event for the first time. However, I feel that I am lacking in the BDSM leather wear department. Where can I get some inexpensive leather clothing so I fit in? – Ben in Nashville TN
  • I’ve played with numerous people in the scene, but, when I do, there just doesn’t seem to be any passion. Don’t get me wrong I have a great time, and they seem to be having an amazing time, but I just don’t seem to enjoy it as much as they do. My heart just isn’t in it. How do I establish a connection with people even if it is just for a short time? Ann in California

Season 3 Episode 1

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This week, I wanted to talk about misconceptions in the scene. When we first start off, there are a variety of things we think we are going to see. In the end, it just isn’t so. Also, welcome to Season 3. Sorry it took so long. Had a variety of factors not including a site breach. However, we are returning to our normal schedule.
Viewer Questions this week:
  • I’d really like to get into presenting. I feel that I have a lot to offer the BDSM community. How can I get into this field?
  • I go to parties all the time but never end up playing. I just can’t seem to find anyone to play with. How to do it?
  • How do I know someone is safe / how do I find safe people to play with / how do I be safe?

 

Music this week:
Techno Turtle feat. Martijn de Boer (NiGiD) by Levihica (c) 2015 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. Ft: Martijn de Boer (NiGiD)

Season 2 Episode 16

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Season 2 Episode 16 | 2015 to 2016 Transition

Well.. it is finally here! The last episode of 2015. This week I just don’t have time to get to the questions, but… I do cover vanilla perceptions of our kinky world. This will be my last episode of 2015. I shall return in early 2016 with more interviews and more kinkiness. So stay tuned and we’ll see you on the other side! The kink must continue!

Season 2 Episode 16 | BDSM in the new year

 

Music for this week:

Parallel World by Platinum Butterfly (c) 2015 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license.

Season 2 Episode 14

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Season 2 Episode 14

Season 2 Episode 14

This week, I discuss a the differences between play relationships and relationships, I read a listener comment from the last show, and I answer the questions below:

  • I’m brand new to the community and the lifestyle. What are some things that I can do so that people take me seriously? What are some pitfalls I should avoid?
  • I am traveling to another place far away from my normal scene. How can I get involved withe local community and not feel like an outsider? Should I even bother?
  • Where is a good place to get toys?

 

The song I used is this:

Universe of Music by snowflake (c) 2014 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. Ft: CSoul, Copperhead

Season 2 Episode 13

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Season 2 Episode 13

Season 2 Episode 13 | Shy personThis week we have several topics to tackle. The biggest however is what constitutes normal in the kink scene. We reference a post on Fetlife, however, for privacy, we won’t be linking directly to it (plus it’s been taken down).

 

  • My Boyfriend is into lactation, he wants to get me pregnant so that he can indulge in that fantasy. I think it’s sick and wrong. Can’t I find someone who is just “normal”?
  • When new people enter the community, one of the first things they need is guidance and safe friends. Is it possible to relate with people who are just coming into the community when you’ve been in it for a while?
  • My girlfriend really wants to put me into chastity. I’m not really sure about it though. Are there any risks associated with long term chastity?

 

Announcement, Rope_Squirrel, in his alter ego, will be presenting at Sin in the City 2016. However, that means there may be some opportunity for interviews in Vegas.

Season 2 Episode 12

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Season 2 Episode 12

Season 2 Episode 12 | Polyamory

Topic for this week:

Toxic people in the community. We talk about how to make sure that your kink life isn’t filled with drama.

Questions this week:

  1. I am a single guy, I feel really odd when I attend play parties. Partly because I don’t have anyone to play with but mostly because I feel everyone is judging me to be the creepy guy. Is it OK that I attend parties?
  2. I want to meet more kinky girls, where are some of the best places to look? Should I use non-kink sites like Match.com or Tinder?
  3. Are poly relationships worth the hassle? I’ve been conversing with this guy who is poly and wants to bring me into the relationship. Am I opening a huge can of worms here?

Until November 7th I’ll be in the Ontario province of Canada. If you are interested in being on the show and are in that area, feel free to hit me up. We’d love to have locals on the show.

Season 2 Episode 12 | Canada Leaf

Season 2 Episode 11

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Season 2 Episode 11

PonyHugNo | Season 2 Episode 11

 

This week we discuss the NCSF Consent violation survey.

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Then we answer your questions:

  1. My girlfriend wants to have open relationship, I’m not sure I’m OK with that, but I honestly don’t know how to feel. Where can I go to get more information?
  2. So I am in love with this girl, but she seems uninterested in me when this other person is around. When He isn’t around, she is all over me. Am I in trouble?

 

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Maple Leaf | Season 2 Episode 11Also, for the next 45 days (Sept 24th – Nov 7th), Rope_Squirrel will be in Canada. Fear not though, we are making him bring his recording equipment so the show will go on.

 

Season 2 Episode 10

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Season 2 Episode 10

Season 2 Episode 10 | Romeo and Juliet, the tale of two clubs

This episode features an interview with a Detroit munch organizer and community leader, I talk about bridging gaps between groups and we answer questions about collars, strange fetishes and negotiations.

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